freelance coding - is it worth dragging a girl into it?

deex2011-01-23 10:16:38

Freelance

deex, 2011-01-23 10:16:38

imagine an abstract freelancer in a vacuum a
freelancer writes code, sells it and lives with a girl who has only a small teaching practice

in the light of the prospect of moving to other countries in order to see the world, he has an idea to involve the girl in his work - to teach how to work with clients, answer questions, sell software,

but the fact is that the girl communicates with the computer at the level of contact and winamp, does not have a passion for studying the details, is also not a creative person and not a careerist. an ordinary girl who wants a quiet life, not confused by the ghostly goals of a bright future, a

freelancer cannot correctly answer her question - is it worth involving a girl?

on the one hand, it is very convenient for joint earnings, the issue of the employment of a girl is solved, a huge burden is removed from the shoulders of a freelancer

; on the other hand, the combination of business and personal relationships is unlikely to bring only profits
, the only question is how much you can spoil everything with such a combination?

a freelancer really needs the personal experience of habrapeople in order to make the right decision

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17 answer(s)

Sergey, 2011-01-23
@bondbig

I would get involved.
When I was a student, I tried to do some kind of "business" - I was engaged in repairing computers at home. A lot of people are doing this, but I expanded the scale a little - I advertised in newspapers, glued them on porch poles, made a website, hired employees, registered an individual entrepreneur, paid taxes on the simplified tax system, etc. If not for my wife, I would hardly have coped, she helped me in everything: she answered calls, pasted ads with me, in general, helped in everything. But she is generally proactive, she was interested in me.

Eugene, 2011-01-23
@EugeneL

My wife doesn't want to. I asked. Therefore, I recommend to find out personally, and not from distant people.

Konstantin Kitmanov, 2011-01-23
@k12th

Ask her. Just don’t be manipulative (“darling, would you like to take a huge load off me?”).
In fact, a family business is not such a rarity.

noRerih, 2011-01-23
@noRerih

There is no such personal experience, but it seems to me that since a freelancer is already asking such a question, he knows the answer (“no”), and is only looking for outside support, hoping for someone’s abstract positive personal experience in this matter. I would not advise a freelancer to experiment like that. This is of course, if the freelancer asked me.

Wott, 2011-01-23
@Wott

- a girl is not a wife, and if she pulls contacts, then addiction will appear. Do you want to manage the mix of personal and business relationships in the future?
How do you manage your personal and work time? Are you ready for your girlfriend to know exactly what and how you do at work? How much do you earn and so on? In general, are you ready for the fact that the business sphere of communication, which is now completely private, will become completely open to your girlfriend?
- does the girl want and pull the specified side of the business? There is a possibility of all four options, but only one is good.
- freelance communication has a certain negative connotation - there will always be a customer or contractor, a freak or a moron who will drink juice and play on nerves. Do you want this for your girlfriend? Is she ready to take that level?
- there is a certain class of customers who do not want to communicate with anyone other than the performer. This is understandable from the point of view of control and possession of the situation. It will be necessary either to send them or to sort them out, that is, to take into account such customers in the daily cycles. But in fact, they break the manager-executor scheme completely.

javax, 2011-01-23
@javax

If you do not want to quarrel on this basis - no.

codecity, 2011-01-23
@codecity

This is a personal question - it makes no sense to ask people who don't even know you in public. It all depends on the specific situation.

loat, 2011-01-24
@loat

Impossible to answer for sure without a photo.

sl4mmer, 2011-01-23
@sl4mmer

Probably not. Do not interfere with work and personal life. And it is unlikely that the girl herself will want to do this.

Alexander, 2011-01-23
@Alexx_ps

And what is your goal? Do you need an assistant? Or do you need to find something to do for your girlfriend?
PS: Religion does not allow starting a sentence with a capital letter and putting a dot at the end?

Ivan, 2011-01-24
@dohlik

How interesting is this for her? A kind of secretarial position ...
Show her the very possibility of making money on the Internet, because there are many different areas, including very creative ones, that may interest a girl. As an option, organize a part-time job related to her main activity (consultations on the subjects she teaches, or problem solving there ...), but this is not for everyone.

Ivan Trofimov, 2011-01-23
@cbone

I think it depends on the person. If there is a desire, why not. The main thing is that the work should not be a burden, but a joy. Then good results can be achieved.

deex, 2011-01-23
@deex

the girl is ready to help, except that she doesn’t have a clear interest in these technologies, it
seems that a plus can be distinguished here in that understanding web technologies will basically help her in life, in an era when almost everything is transferred to the Internet, of
course it didn’t occur to her to force would be - such an assistant is worse than an enemy
, and I’m still thinking how to arrange it so that she doesn’t have to make responsible decisions - because if she takes them incorrectly, quarrels will appear on this basis

Jazzist, 2011-01-23
@Jazzist

According to public experience and without regard to freelancing, relationships are stronger and more interesting when spouses work in different organizations and in different areas. And vice versa.

Posigrade, 2011-01-23
@Posigrade

in the light of the prospect of moving to other countries, in order to see the world, he has an idea to involve the girl in his work - to teach how to work with clients, answer questions, sell software

IMHO, you don’t need to connect to your work, if you don’t ask yourself. It is better to show the opportunity to be realized through freelancing in what she likes. I have friends, they were together for 4 years, she knows 6 languages (translates in all directions), he is a programmer. There the situation was reversed, and the girl pulled the guy into freelancers in the second year of marriage.

Nicolette, 2011-01-23
@Nicolette

If the girl really has an interest in this type of activity, then you can try. If you are interested in knowing success stories, then it turned out similar with the “abstract freelancer” - I’m not very interested in studying web technologies proper, but I like to delve into all sorts of unusual programming languages and write about them (which my hubblog displays).

UseRifle, 2012-10-15
@UseRifle

Option: do you work remotely yourself and support both is not considered?
It's like that in my family :) Everyone is happy.