Children and the Internet: how to control?

Question

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Should children aged 8-10 be allowed to go online on their own? If so, how to protect them from "unwanted content" ? Allow or block the use of social networks. networks at this age and how to do it right?
Already in elementary school, most children have smartphones, and with them - social pages. networks, YouTube, etc. The kids who haven't made them yet do n't want to be left behind. In general, I will be grateful for the advice and opinions of "experienced" parents on these issues.
ps By "unwanted content" I mean not only swearing and 18+ content, but also resources that misinform, give a wrong idea about the world, morality, etc.
pps I understand that you need to educate children, and not give your child an iPhone 6+ according to the principle "whatever the child amuses ...". But how to do this in a world where there are only gadgets and the Internet around with all the ensuing consequences?

Answer 1

> pps I understand that you need to educate children, and not give your child an iPhone 6+ according to the principle "whatever the child amuses ...". But how to do this in a world where there are only gadgets and the Internet around with all the ensuing consequences?
You yourself understand everything. What is important is not what the child sees, but how he evaluates what he sees. Priorities and criticality of assessment should be brought up in him, and the sooner the better - by puberty, ideally, a parent should turn from a mentor into an older friend, and by the age of 20-22, just a friend.
PS It's not bad to give your child the right resources, in which he will more often find answers that are useful both for him and from your point of view. But when you try to hide or hide other sources, you encourage him to look for them.
Just explain where the information is better and WHY.

Answer 2

There is a proposal to naturally educate children, and not to outsource this process to the Internet.
From vilgeforce's comment

Instill critical thinking, then the issue of disinformation and any kind of morality will excite you much less.

Answer 3

First of all, it is worth showing the children Dvach. And then you can not worry about this issue at all.

Answer 4

Vladimir has already written everything that I thought about (it’s only a pity that I was modest under the spoiler), so I’ll just add five kopecks from my childhood.
I won’t rant for a long time, I’ll just say that due to the fact that my parents thought in terms of “how to give”, and not “how to limit”, the computer I got was one of the first in the class, which subsequently gave me a few years advantage over peers. Of course, by the time others began to have computers, I had already managed to repeatedly kill Windows95 by deleting system files, explore all the “domen.com” combinations available to the child’s mind, and get enough of the games. Later, while they were still playing chats/ICQ/Ultima-online/counter-strike, I was already earning my first hundred dollars cooking banners for some stranger who wrote me an e-mail, paid after the fact by webmoney, because for a year before that, I posted a couple of my doodles on some thematic forum; and still received their hard-earned money in the hands of a local gangster billiard room from a webmoney dealer who was resting there. No, I, like all children, still wanted to play and all that, I was just lucky to avoid the conditionrushed . I already had free time from children's leisure for self-development.
Lord, I thank my parents that they were not smart enough to control me then. And that I learned everything about sex from porn, and found the answers to all the questions that arise with each new film before I had to put the knowledge into practice. My parents didn't have time to take care of me. They didn't even know how. I’m sure that if my childhood fell out today, they would also have heard enough from friends and girlfriends about control and safety, and paired with incompetence in education and lack of time for their child, the devil knows what they would have raised.
Summing up this little sketch, I would like to say that I personally would recommend that parents improve themselves and learn to build relationships with their children, have answers to all children's questions, be an interesting conversationalist, the strongest dad, the most tender mom, and then the issue of control will disappear by itself . Relationships are built on trust, and when there is no trust, you have to resort to control.

Answer 5

Should children aged 8-10 be allowed to go online on their own?

Yes.
No way. The child will not die of seeing something that you think is wrong. You can teach your child to think and form their own opinion. Explain that there can be many opinions, they can be different, that the network is full of idiots and they are not always right.

Answer 6

I'm amazed. And then they ask, why do states try in every possible way to limit our freedom?
If you think that you have the right to tell your children what is possible and what is not, then why should the state have less reason to do so?

Answer 7

Sorry, I just remembered .
Matt Groening.

Answer 8

Read books on parenting, seek advice from a child psychologist, with a request to give you comments on the issues of fencing and "depriving" children of various resources that are available to others, how to present it correctly, how to explain what is not yet possible and why they are not allowed, but others can. In raising children, he will be 100 times more competent than IT people.

Answer 9

IMHO: free access to the Internet - 12+

Answer 10

Мой вариант, конечно, вполне заслуженно может показаться неприемлемым, но дайте детям свободу. Нет, серьезно, с ребенком ничего не случиться, если он пару раз увидит "нехорошую" рекламу. Кроме того, если уж мы говорим о подростке - у вполне него могут возникнуть вопросы о "сексуальном просвещении", и ввиду того, что в России этот вопрос развит довольно плохо, интернет - это самый адекватный способ.
P.S. Если у Вас возникла мысль поговорить об "этом" с вашем чадом, пожалуйста, поберегите психическое здоровье ребенка.

Answer 11

It is strange to hear that we want to protect children from what we ourselves have created ...
It remains only to chop off their hands, well, or gouge out their eyes. And it’s also funny that children
can go to a night striptease club, but they should, like monkeys, not see, not hear ..
Let's chop off their heads ...
Don't let them go to the Internet or hammer it, because they play games
along with forty-year-old drunken system administrators who swear obscenely, like
on a collective farm. The spam that children eat like candy leads to mats, naked bodies
and to a video where seven of one are beaten to an obser. And the friendship offers
they receive are written by porn-worried bots that promote porn sites
make friends with your children, so that, at best, send spam, or even the computer will be infected.

Answer 12

To tell children about some kind of god or to invent it, variations are possible in the form of demons and Satan. So usually morality is created in people and then they scare themselves with gods and other garbage, it affects children and adults, and you don’t need to fill the computer with unnecessary software :-) Tell me that there is a large network there and each computer connects to each one through servers and that if you look there, you can get AIDS ...
Or take some to a church / monastery / give away

Answer 13

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