Why do mate-terminal, xfce4-terminal and mc behave like this in gnome-terminal 2.33.99 and in general what terminals do people use?

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I ran into this question when I switched from CentOS EL6 to the current Calculate Desktop 17. After installing TDE (there is an assumption that it is very crooked), when you start mate-terminal and xfce4-terminal, the same thing happens - when you start, they almost shrink up to the width of the menu in width and two lines in height (in the figures), when the window is stretched, artifacts in the form of stripes are clearly visible, which do not disappear by themselves, disappear only after the window is moved.
It spun and twirled for a long time, like a cockroach in a frying pan, until it adapted to gnome-terminal 2.33. There were no problems when working with EL6 centos, Synology on the 3.x kernel, QNAP, VmWare hosts. But when working with consoles on my own machine :), on one of the new servers, where the same Calculate Linux Server 17 is installed and with the new Synology on the 4.x kernel, I noticed that mc in gnome-terminal behaves strangely:
- the mouse does not work. From the word at all. And everything works in xterm.
- when you try to enter the "-" (minus) symbol in the command line, the Unselect window appears
- (most important!) - when switching to the terminal window, there is a 2-3 second delay (until the cursor blinks once). If you start typing something, the delay will be longer, up to 5-10 seconds. It really pissed me off.
Like thislooks like running mate=terminal.
This is what it looks like trying to stretch it.
This is how xfce4-terminal launch looks like - they are very similar and the glitch is the same.
I didn’t really want to understand it, I didn’t really want to study the giblets of xterm - though even less, but I had to. As a result, .Xresources came out like this:

! common color theme
*background:    #2c2c2c
*foreground:    #dcdccc

! Tango-like theme (based on gnome-terminal color codes)
! Black + DarkGrey 
*color0:        #2e3436
*color8:        #555753
! Red + BrightRed
*color1:        #cc0000
*color9:        #ef2929
! Green + BrightGreen
*color2:        #4e9a06
*color10:       #8ae234
! Sand + Yellow
*color3:        #c4a000
*color11:       #fce94f
! Blue + BrightBlue
*color4:        #3465a4
*color12:       #729fcf
! Magenta + BrightMagenta
*color5:        #75507b
*color13:       #ad7fa8
! Cyan + BrightCyan
*color6:        #06989a
*color14:       #34e2e2
! Grey + White
*color7:        #d3d7cf
*color15:       #eeeeec
! xterm settings (to override standart)
! colors
xterm*background:               #2c2c2c
xterm*foreground:               #dcdccc
! scrollbar
xterm*scrollBar:                true
xterm*scrollBar.width:          6
xterm*rightScrollBar:           true
xterm*saveLines:                1024
! geometry (xterm*geometry leads to incorrect xterm menu!)
xterm.vt100.geometry:                   112x41
! font
xterm*renderFont:               true
xterm*faceName:                 Consolas:style=Regular:size=11;antialias=false
xterm*faceSize:                 11
xterm*allowBoldFonts:           false
! use as login shell
xterm*loginshell:               true
! clipboard
xterm*selectToClipboard:        true
! application icon
xterm*iconHint:                 /usr/share/pixmaps/Xterminal.xpm

Actually there are two questions:
- Is there a chance to make a menu on the right button in xterm? Now you have to take your hand off the mouse to copy
- Are there any other terminals besides xterm, gnome-terminal, mate-terminal, xfce4-terminal? Who uses what terminal?